when you begin to feel again

when you begin to feel again

a cloudy sky with sunlight streaming through a couple of breaks in the clouds. Sunbeams are shining down into silhouettes of treetops
when you begin to feel again

When life is overwhelming,
our wise bodies sometimes take
an overdue break
and our obedient hearts and minds
follow suit.
Maybe it feels like fatigue
or illness
or depression
or apathy.
Everything
just
shuts
down.

It all felt like too much,
and it was.
You were never meant
to carry so much alone.

And then, some time,
there’s a little crack.
Maybe it was sparked by
a good memory
a baby's chubby hand grasping your finger
a particular song
a dragonfly’s wing
the sunlight coming through the clouds
a roly poly between the sidewalk and the grass
the touch of a loved one
or the presence of someone
who is companioning you
on your healing journey—
a therapist, spiritual director, sponsor, or friend.

Beneath the hard, shiny surface
that was protecting you so well,
you might catch a glimpse
of your tender, beating heart.

I’m alive
I’m alive
I’m alive
it says.
I am hurting,
but I’m still here.

When you begin to feel again,
you enter the holy ground of vulnerability
because feelings are wild things
that were meant to be allowed,
not controlled.

Your body might panic—
it hasn’t yet learned whether
you can tolerate the intensity—
but the intensity is just a mail carrier
delivering its messages.

And oh, Beloved, here’s the good news:
it’s not just the pain that’s been on hold.
When you begin to feel again,
Joy and Wonder and Curiosity
and Excitement and Gratitude
and Compassion and Tenderness and Belonging
are close on the heels of your sorrow.
When Sadness gains access
to your softening heart again,
she will let the others know
that it’s safe to come back home.

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