Tag: Self-Compassion
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fear is (not) a liar
Fear is (not) a liarBy Lindsay L. O’ConnorI used to try to divorce myself from inconvenient feelingsthat seemed to:- stand in the way of my goals- threaten my connection with people I loved or depended on- make me uncomfortable.Those poor dears!They cowered in the dark, shoved down, covered up,sealed tight by shame, guilt, and anxiety.Do…
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feast: a promise full, filled.
feast: a promise full, filledby Lindsay L. O’ConnorYou put this hunger in my belly,then promised me a feast.Sometimes the hunger gnawsas though it might consume meand I wonder if I will ever be satisfied.Then, I have these moments when time slows downand suddenly I see the banquet table set before me.I hear You say,“Take. Eat.…
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unedited
What would you say if you stopped editing yourself? Not in a public forum, but just alone with your Self, and maybe even with God. Part of my deconstruction has been finding the safety to stop editing myself in what I share with God. I used to be so bound up in behaving correctly and…
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free play
Free PlayWhat would you do if you weren’t afraid? Those dear protectorsonly want to keep us safebut sometimes, they hem us in, behind and before, so our little world shrinkssmaller and smallerand we can’t see a way out anymore. Many times, what they want most in the world is to be heard, seen, acknowledged, validated.…
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spill
If you took off the lidthat was sealed so tightly,I wonder what would spill out?Would the contents burst forthlike a geyser shooting up,or would something tightly coiledfinally have the room to spring,air filling the long-compressed spacesso that at last it could take upall the space it was designed to occupy?Or would it be a slow…
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Enneagram Work + Contemplative Practices
The Enneagram describes 9 ways we deny reality.Enneagram work involves naming our patterned ways of denying reality, noticing them (with compassion) in action, & discovering how they keep us from fulfilling our core needs & desires. While Enneagram work helps name and observe the ways we deny reality, contemplative practices give us tools to practice…
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before you go
before you go Stay with yourselfStay with this momentStay with this holy unfoldingStay with this goodness.When your wise body tells you “This is good,”Stay. When your chest is wide open,expanding the width of the whole world,so entwined with creationthat the very breeze feels likethe breath expanding your lungs—Stay.Linger on this holy ground. When you glimpse…
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9 Invitations for Expansion Part 3: Body (Enneagram 8, 9, 1)
9 Invitations for ExpansionPart 3: Body(Enneagram 8, 9, 1) The Enneagram is a tool that can help us identify the specific ways we have zeroed in on a small portion of reality and provides pathways for expanding our perspective. This helps us to connect more fully and deeply with others, ourselves, and the Divine. Here…
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words that come from silence
words that come from silenceby Lindsay L. O’ConnorI want words that come from silence,like when the world began.Words born in noise have their place, to be sure,but there is so much noisefrom reacting without much thought,without checking in firstwith the body, heart, and mind,to see how the message might be refinedin the furnace of our…
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9 Invitations for Expansion: Part 2: Heart (Enneagram 2, 3, 4)
9 Invitations for ExpansionPart 2: Heart(Enneagram 2, 3, 4) The Enneagram is a tool that can help us identify the specific ways we have zeroed in on a small portion of reality and provides pathways for expanding our perspective. This helps us to connect more fully and deeply with others, ourselves, and the Divine. Here…